Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. – Ephesians 5:21
No one likes the word submission. Submitting sounds weak and defeating. Losers submit. Winners force submission. The word strikes against every nerve of our will and self-sufficiency.
Yet, submission is essential to every Christian relationship. Especially, relationships in the home.
Within the oneness of the Trinity, the Son willingly submits to the authority of the Father who loves him. The Church, then, submits to Christ in response to his love for us. Christ’s submission is the divine model for every Christian “one another” relationship.
Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. Dear friends, since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. – 1 John 4:7-11
When the love-submission model is abandoned churches, marriages and families are in trouble.
In the Home:
The husband-wife relationship depends on love and submission. Read Ephesians 5:21-33. Here, the wife is to the husband as the Church is to Christ, and vice versa. Submitting and loving.
Children need to see and learn the love-submission model in the home. Dad’s submission to Christ and love for mom sets the proper example for the whole home. Mom’s submission and love ensues, along with the children.
Submission is not based on how wonderful dad or mom are. It’s because of how Awesome Christ is. We love and “submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.”
Christ is the ultimate example of submitting and loving. He fully submitted himself to the Father’s will and demonstrated his love by giving himself up for us.
“Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done.” – Luke 22:42
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her. – Ephesians 5:25
So, we always live in perfect agreement? Unlikely. Even in the Trinity, it seems, submission involves a tension between wills—“take this…yet not my will, but yours.” Yet, Christ showed us how submission and giving ourselves up (i.e., love) for one another must prevail.
May submission prevail in your home.
Dave and Sue